How to Flirt

Are you wondering how to break into the dating scene (or re-enter it perhaps)? Maybe you have seen someone you would like to get to know better, but aren't sure how to approach them. Flirting is the most common way that people interact in social settings, and it is important to know what works and what doesn't. Learning how to flirt well can build your confidence enough to take the next step on the road to a relationship, or just help you relax and have a good time in a social environment.

Flirting with body language
Have a flirtatious conversation
Shall we flirt again?

Sometimes it's fairly easy to tell if someone is interested in you.

Flirting with body language

If you are at a party, a club, or a bar and you see someone you want to flirt with, the first thing to do is send non-verbal signals. Make brief eye contact, without staring them down, and smile. Give them the hint that you like what you see.

The second step is observing their body language. If they are interested in you as well, their body language will say so as well. If they return the eye contact and the smile, wave or move closer to you, there is a good chance they are ready to flirt.

Have a flirtatious conversation

If you get the chance to speak with this attractive person, start with a simple greeting and an observation. Let them know that you noticed something interesting about them, such as the smell of a cologne or perfume, the drink they chose, or that they seem to be alone. Keep it simple, and don't get too personal too fast. You may even start with an even more universal topic like the weather or the mood in the room.

Once you have broken the ice, and they seem to be responsive, continue the conversation. Remember to smile and listen carefully in order to pick up ideas on how to continue your chat.
Don't take flirtatious conversation too seriously. You may or may not ever see them again, so just relax and have fun. You can talk about your interests and ask about theirs, but make sure that you do more listening than talking.

Stay away from extremely personal questions like "how many sexual partners have you had?" You shouldn't even ask where they live. Stick to their name, career, hobbies, or what brought them to that place. Flirting is meant to be lighthearted, so don't vent about relationships from the past or your personal and most private thoughts.

Shall we flirt again?

As you time to flirt comes to an end, you will have to wrap things up. If the interest is mutual, you can exchange phone numbers so that you can continue your conversation. Stay cool and don't act desperate. If they are interested in you, they will meet you halfway.

If they do or say something that turns you off, be polite and say goodbye. Don't forget that sometimes, the other person might just be having fun and not thinking about anything more than a one-time flirt. Let things happen, don't force them.

The end result might be nothing more than a memory or a lifetime partner. You never know.